Not everyone embraces Valentine’s Day. It is, at worst, a commercial free-for-all crammed with out-of-season roses and overpriced, throwaway gifts and, at best, a day that sees you dashing to a supermarket at 6pm trying to find something that doesn’t scream “after-thought”.
But if you are going to embrace it, there are some great, thoughtful gifts out there. We’ve put together a list of more unusual, long-lasting ideas: from Lego flowers to a digital mix tape, a refurbished games console to an affordable fragrance. Whether you’re looking for a present to bring you closer as a couple – half-and-half duvet, anyone? – or to attract someone new, our guide will help you ace Valentine’s Day this year. And not an (out-of-season) red rose in sight.
The best Valentine’s Day gifts
A forever bouquet
![Lego Wildflower Bouquet](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/2d54ae92968b3e58dfa4ed4c1139f6d801500c76/732_228_1264_1265/master/1264.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Lego wildflower bouquet
Better than a hot-housed bouquet, Lego flowers are not only beautiful but also they’ll last forever. This wildflower set comes as 939 pieces, so you can build them together for a wholesome night in. There’s a whole range of botanical Lego from which you can pick a bunch to suit their taste. If flowers aren’t their thing, these tiny plants are also really cute.
… or a radicchio bouquet
![Natoora Mixed Radicchio Box](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/4930936730041281ec4019261b782036c2798d55/97_609_1951_1951/master/1951.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Mixed radicchio box
This beautiful box of seasonal radicchio is a wonderful alternative to a bunch of out-of-season roses, as suggested by Natoora’s “radicchio not roses” campaign. Display their beautiful pink leaves in a bowl on your table, and then eat them.
Hot and cold
![Slumberdown Made For You Two Duvet 4.5/10.5 Tog All Year Round Duvet](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/c81435723a1e8970461c2efce5ee7b1bafdf13e3/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Slumberdown Made For You Two duvet 4.5/10.5 Tog
From £24.99 at Debenhams
From £25.99 at Amazon
If you find yourself shivering in bed while your partner’s sweating, this one’s for you. This dual-tog duvet has a 4.5 thickness on one half and 10.5 on the other, so you can both get a perfect sleep.
If your bed setup is in need of more than just a new duvet, read our test of the best mattresses to help you sleep better
An affordable fragrance
![DIOR Sauvage Deodorant Spray](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/f5f29a2222d192d662971e6231ddeef950346069/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Dior Sauvage deodorant spray, 150ml
£34 at Boots
£40 at the Perfume Shop
![Chanel COCO MADEMOISELLE FRESH MOISTURE MIST](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/5da31202ffdde19ca92bb7d9abd72ad6cf06c0d0/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Chanel Coco Mademoiselle moisture mist, 100ml
£39.10 at John Lewis
£39.10 at Boots
Perfumes and aftershaves can be so expensive, so when Anita Bhagwandas recommended buying the more affordable body spray version of your favourite scent, I was sold. Most high-end fragrances have them, including Chanel Coco Mademoiselle, Davidoff Cool Water and Jo Malone Pear & Freesia. My personal favourite, Glossier You, even comes in a body butter. Buy one to match the scent they already wear for a fail-safe gift.
Understated bling
![Missoma Round Curb Chain Bracelet £145.00](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/70c10a4be3e8a7a8710b8fc781cc39caba5bc2ce/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Sterling silver round curb chain bracelet
Simple chains are perfect for no-frills people. If your partner’s style is more understated, get them a classic piece of jewellery from an affordable but cool brand such as Missoma.
Personal touch
![Monica Vinader Signature Signet Ring](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/f389727e92e49064f1355413c8e7133a12f25b93/0_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Signature signet ring
Get jewellery engraved for a more personal gift. This 18k gold vermeil signet ring from Monica Vinader – a Filter favourite – can be etched with the initials of your loved one to make them feel extra special.
Modern mix tape
![Spotify Code Keyring](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/35745f481342651b7f9036cd911d746e2be12bba/0_0_1588_1588/master/1588.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Personalised Spotify code keyring
Did you know every song, artist and playlist on Spotify has its own unique code? Create a playlist of songs you know your partner will love and get the code printed on a keyring for a simple but deeply personal gift. Think of it as a modern-day mix tape.
Vintage games console
![Sony PlayStation Classic Console](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/451d0855caf12ef549a7a2e6f435fb6114d96291/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Sony PlayStation classic console
If your partner is into gaming, chances are they used to have the original PlayStation or Nintendo 64. Both Sony and Nintendo sell versions of their classic consoles preloaded with the original games – I borrowed my boyfriend’s Super Nintendo recently and Donkey Kong had me hooked for hours. They’re a perfect gift for those with a penchant for nostalgia. You could also buy a refurbished model at a more affordable price.
Spice it up (literally)
![The Cornish Smoke Squad Build Your Own Hot Sauce Selection Box](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/c2aaa88b15897af53024c7613ad1dd5a8db1dbc8/237_0_1691_1344/master/1691.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Build your own hot sauce box
£26.50 at Not on the High Street
From smoky to fruity, tailor this hot sauce selection box to them by selecting the flavours you know they’ll love.
Underwear for her …
![Stripe & Stare Raspberry and Scarlet Lace Bralette](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/bd94f8baca522e1932411e471875c79026d4c723/0_0_3829_4786/master/3829.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Raspberry and scarlet lace underwear
£35 for a bralette at Stripe & Stare
£18 for the original knicker at Stripe & Stare
Comfy doesn’t have to mean frumpy. Stripe & Stare underwear is known for being cute and comfortable. This set in quintessential Valentine’s Day colours is perfect.
… for him
![Calvin Klein 3 Pack Low Rise Trunks - Cotton Stretch £42.00](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/bc4e1632c25bf3497a60f5f85f7a9e4723c1fe69/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Low rise trunks, three pack
£42 at Calvin Klein
£42 at Asos
Calvin Kleins are a classic for a reason. If you want to buy them boxers but are unsure about where to start, these are a safe bet.
… and for you both
![Speltham London Red & White Striped Classic Unisex Boxer Shorts](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/0ad7c155f0a98534eb2fa752b6652b492bf96716/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Red and white striped classic unisex boxer shorts
For something more distinctive, how about unisex underwear? These boxers are designed to be worn by everyone.
Gift a hobby
![Decathlon KUIKMA Adult Padel Racket PR Open - Red](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/e73f6a89f1b1327228b9b6659121253cf0f04ddf/1117_142_2701_2701/master/2701.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Open padel racket
Looking for a new hobby? Padel has become one of the fastest-growing sports worldwide. If you still haven’t given it a go, buy a pair of rackets so you can take it up together.
Tropical treat
![Lelo Full Body Massage](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/e857618e3c922d6df95d09d63748e406bc7a9424/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Slow Sex full body massage oil
Made to be used on the entire body, this massage oil has a delicious coconut scent and is compatible with latex condoms, meaning it can double up as a lubricant.
For your lobster
![The House of Bloc Lobster Shaped Corkscrew Bottle Opener](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/638a18307d71bd07b8bd6166111931414b1aa00e/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Lobster shaped bottle opener
Lobsters have become an enigmatic symbol of love, thanks to that episode of Friends. You’ll find all manner of tacky lobster trinkets around Valentine’s Day, but this bottle opener is a fun and useful choice.
Monopoly *insert name* edition
![Custompoly Personalized Board](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/f64002f3ed91a3554a502626e3088a6593fe103d/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Personalised Monopoly
Perfect for board game fanatics, this personalised version of Monopoly can be customised with all your in jokes.
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Yes, chef!
![Ottolenghi Comfort](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/c29a137bbe43d71d50f273c73b435351cff9cfec/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Ottolenghi Comfort
£25.50 at the Guardian Bookshop
£15 at Amazon
If your partner is a whiz in the kitchen – or needs to up their game – get them a cookbook from their favourite chef or restaurant. If you’re looking for comfort dishes to get you through the last leg of winter, try Ottolenghi’s latest book for classics with a twist. Let’s be honest, it’s as much a gift for you as it is for them.
Monthly treats
![Pact Coffee Subscription. Bourbon Cream Espresso](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/3123e4163af72c09e0f9d58ca48751178ec3bc14/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Monthly coffee subscription
From £7.95 a month at Pact Coffee
If your partner is a coffee aficionado, give them a monthly subscription to show them how much you care. Pact offers the choice of regular or decaf in whole bean, ground coffee or machine pod form, so you can tailor it to how they like their morning brew.
For more inspiration, check out our guide to the best subscriptions
Transport into your favourite cartoon
![Custom Cartoon Portrait from Photo | Personalized Custom Portrait from photos | Rick and Morty | Couple Gift | Gift Idea Made by CartoonPeopleDesign](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/29f364323d8bd80f5ea7da3f57c4181078740896/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Rick and Morty inspired personalised cartoon
For an original take on a couple’s caricature, turn you and your partner into characters from their favourite cartoon. This one in the style of Rick and Morty is particularly fun, but Etsy has dozens of different options, including The Simpsons, Family Guy and Adventure Time.
Add some mystery
![The Adventure Challenge Couples Edition](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/822a68e0399f46468dde9d3fb510395147a52851/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
The Adventure Challenge couples edition
£24.99 at the Adventure Challenge
If you’re fresh out of date ideas and could use some inspiration, this is for you. The Adventure Challenge books are full of activities that remain a mystery until you scratch to reveal each one. They’re all designed to make you try new things and create memories together.
Add some fun
![Smile Makers The Tennis Pro vibrator](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/8354588ab59f6dd8d048627faaeaf7a9a142a82c/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
The Tennis Pro G spot vibrator
£49.95 at Smile Makers
£49.95 at Cult Beauty
A popular choice from our self-care gift guide, Smile Makers’ vibrators are named after sexual fantasies, such as the Poet and the French Lover. They’re waterproof and vegan: probably one for someone already in your life …
Frame it
![Oliver Bonas Alyssa Pink & Green Photo Frame](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/640c6967c05465b5708d9a95710875590d350e9b/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Alyssa pink and green photo frame
Buy a nice frame – or thrift a secondhand one (Vinted is a good source) – and fill it with a picture of you both for a simple but sentimental gift.
Table for two
![Dishpatch Bistecca alla Fiorentina by Cafe Murano](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/d0636eaf4d3fe25dde3279587a87b5696e0a6e16/1393_0_4002_4002/master/4002.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Restaurant-quality food in the comfort of your own home? Sign me up. Dishpatch offers meal kits by top chefs such as Rick Stein and Andi Oliver delivered straight to your door.
Luxury lounging
![Uniqlo KAWS + Warhol UT Joggers](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/57bbe34e67ef2b05dae9f60fbb6d64b6f686555b/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Unisex Kaws + Warhol UT Joggers
These Uniqlo joggers are from a collection inspired by Andy Warhol and Kaws. They are super comfortable, perfect for evenings in together, and you could absolutely get away with wearing them on emergency snack runs.
![Uniqlo HEATTECH Socks (Soufflé)](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/b27e8a472c56ef4f66541813abb0435bfd406c03/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Women’s souffle Heattech socks
The best complement to any snug outfit is Uniqlo’s Heattech socks. This pair looks particularly cosy.
![Uniqlo HEATTECH Heather Soft Pile Half Thermal Socks](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/144387e74b15c5081577acda5c8ff3ddce635ff0/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Men’s Heattech heather soft pile socks
And for men, these thermal slipper socks will keep your toes toasty while preventing odours with their special deodorising thread.
Rise and shine
![Beurer WL50 Wake Up Light | Daylight Table Lamp](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/777f77b68e12ab6ab0ef4fda30800802202e5f5f/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Beurer Wake Up Light WL50
£79.99 at John Lewis
£69.99 at Amazon
If your loved one isn’t a morning person, then a sunrise alarm clock could be a gamechanger. Designed to emulate the rising sun and gently wake you up with light, it’s the perfect antidote to dark winter mornings. Our expert reviewer Pete Wise chose this model from Beurer as the best one for couples, as you can set two separate alarms.
Check out the Filter’s recent guide to the best sunrise alarm clocks
For night owls
![Gritin 9 LED Clip on Book Light](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/5d7c7aedf1710c6c0df58434baeb1c154c6c0be2/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Gritin 9 LED clip on book light
£14.59 at Gritin
£8.15 at Amazon
Different bedtime preferences can be a contentious issue for couples, but a reading light could be the answer. The ideal present for night owls who want to stay up reading without disturbing their partner.
Game on
![Asmodee Wavelength Party Game](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/5e3affaf4253465c9fb48ffc36f7e12c11b4c821/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Wavelength board game
Can you finish each other’s sentences? Do you know what your partner is thinking just by looking at them? Prove it. Wavelength is a board game that requires you to get into your opponent’s head to guess their answer.
![Talking Hearts Conversation Cards - Couple Card Game](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/1a756991ae314bab31fc7771f72e6db3252f56d0/1000_0_3000_3000/master/3000.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Talking Hearts conversation cards
Discover more about each other with 200 unique question cards intended to start amusing and insightful conversations.
Train together
![Decathlon CORENGTH 7.5 kg Cross Training and Weight Training Hexagonal Dumbbell - Black](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/beabd80b23f77297328999d8e0ec7b0c2853214f/268_191_4442_2665/master/4442.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
7.5kg dumbbell
They say that couples who train together stay together, so a dumbbell for home workouts makes a perfect Valentine’s gift. Or buy one each in a bundle for £45.
For more exercise gear, read what personal trainers say is the best home exercise kit
Sweet tooth
![Biscuiteers DIY date night kit](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/108c7e3426fe2844e7c432cb70f1c82871125798/399_0_4189_3000/master/4189.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
DIY date night kit
A delicious treat and cute activity in one, this box of heart-shaped biscuits comes with everything you need to decorate them at home.
![Waitrose cherry and chocolate panettone](https://i.guim.co.uk/img/media/d500bd2a1b2458d95064d663ec19e6b6121a79df/0_61_2334_2333/master/2334.jpg?width=445&dpr=1&s=none&crop=none)
Cherry and chocolate panettone
If cake is more their thing, this heart-shaped panettone is studded with dark chocolate chips and has a jammy cherry filling. It also comes in a very sweet tin.