‘There was absolutely no chance of being a kid’: new exhibition explores how war shapes children’s lives

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When John Hajdu was three, his parents gave him a teddy bear small enough to fit into his hands: 86 years later, it is the only surviving object from his childhood.

The bear, which the 89-year-old simply calls “teddy”, stayed with him as his father was taken to a labour camp, his mother sent to a concentration camp, and he hid in a non-Jewish neighbour’s cupboard before being forced into the Budapest ghetto.

From 31 July, teddy will go on public display for the first time as part of Childhood in War, a new exhibition at the Imperial War Museum, London, examining how conflict shapes children’s lives.

Displayed in a recreated second world war bedroom, the bear sits among toys, books and personal possessions that ask visitors to consider what childhood looks like when play, education and family life are disrupted by war.

John Hajdu and his family
John Hajdu and his family. Now a grandfather of four, John spends much of his time speaking in schools about surviving the Holocaust

The exhibition combines hundreds of objects with immersive environments, including a full-size railway carriage, a wartime classroom and a cold war living room and kitchen, alongside testimonies from children living through conflicts in places including Ukraine, Sudan and Afghanistan.

For Hajdu, teddy represents a childhood interrupted. Before the war, his life was typical of a well-to-do, middle-class Jewish family. By 1944, after years of antisemitic persecution in Hungary, his father had been sent to a labour camp and Hajdu and his mother had been forced into a designated yellow-star house.

“We could only take with us what we could carry, and that meant just a few pieces of clothing and teddy,” he says. “There was absolutely no chance of being a kid. I had no other toys or books. We were only allowed out in the afternoon wearing the yellow star. I couldn’t meet other children. We weren’t allowed in parks, cinemas or swimming pools or cafes. I was completely isolated.”

The exhibition explores exactly those everyday losses. A reconstructed classroom shows how war disrupts children’s education through objects from conflicts including the second world war, Northern Ireland, Afghanistan and the former Yugoslavia.

The red knitted jumper given to Jochewet Heidenstein by her parents before she left Berlin for Britain.
The red knitted jumper given to Jochewet Heidenstein by her parents before she left Berlin for Britain. Photograph: © IWM (EPH 3909).

There are comics warning children about landmines and unexploded ordnance. Visitors can also climb into an evacuee train carriage containing letters sent home and Kindertransport objects, including a red knitted jumper given to Jochewet Heidenstein by her parents before she and her sisters fled Berlin for Britain.

In October 1944, Hajdu’s mother was arrested and taken to Mauthausen concentration camp in Austria. Believing she would never return, Hajdu’s aunt rushed him into the cupboard of a non-Jewish neighbour.

“I had teddy in my pocket,” he says. “I was in complete darkness and had to keep completely quiet. It seemed like a very long time, which was an incredibly frightening experience for a seven-year-old … By that time I was able to comprehend what happened without fully understanding the enormity of the situation.”

A child refugee’s drawing depicting the 1998–1999 conflict in Kosovo.
A child refugee’s drawing depicting the 1998–99 conflict in Kosovo. Illustration: © The rightsholder (EPH 3008)

He later moved with his aunt into the Budapest ghetto, sharing a flat with more than 20 strangers. “There were no children. We survived on horse meat and bread. Dead bodies lay piled up on the streets, having died of cold, starvation or disease. I was always hungry. Again, I had teddy in my pocket.”

The ghetto was liberated by Soviet troops in January 1945, just before retreating German forces planned to destroy it. Miraculously, Hajdu was reunited with both his parents. His mother survived Mauthausen after US troops liberated the camp, but returned with broken ribs, smashed teeth and lasting psychological scars. “I was convinced I’d never see my parents again,” he says.

A decade later, after the Soviet suppression of the Hungarian uprising, Hajdu and his mother walked 40km (25 miles) and crossed an icy river under cover of darkness to reach Austria. They arrived in Britain in 1957 on a Red Cross train, with teddy travelling with them.

Throughout the exhibition, stories such as Hajdu’s sit alongside contemporary accounts from children living through war today. Visitors can explore a 360-degree virtual tour of an underground school in Ukraine created by one of its pupils, read poems written by Ukrainian children for Unicef’s Poems for Peace project, and see drawings by children in Sudan that were later submitted as evidence of alleged war crimes to the international criminal court.

A poem by a 15-year-old Afghan girl describes the moment the Taliban returned to power in Kabul in August 2021: “I witnessed how that day darkened not only Kabul’s sky, but also the dreams and hopes of so many.”

Alina and Artem, aged nine and from the city of Kharkiv in Ukraine, sit on a makeshift sofa in the underground car park which serves as a bomb shelter
Alina and Artem, aged nine and from the city of Kharkiv in Ukraine, sit on a makeshift sofa in the underground car park that serves as a bomb shelter. Their parents have done their best to make it homely. Photograph: Aleksey Filippov/Unicef/UN0642196/Aleksey Filippov. All rights reserved

The exhibition also examines how childhood can become politicised, with material from the Hitler Youth and Soviet Komsomol movements.

“We wanted to talk about the impact of war on children’s lives,” says curator Fran Singleton. “With more conflicts in the news at the moment, it felt like the right time to create an exhibition that offers families a space to come together and discuss these important topics.”

For Hajdu, allowing teddy to leave his home for the first time has been surprisingly difficult.

“Teddy did, and still does, mean so much to me. It was my only connection to a family life I barely remembered when I was three,” he says. “I find it difficult to look at the desk where he normally sits.”

Now a grandfather of four, Hajdu spends much of his time speaking in schools about surviving the Holocaust. As the number of survivors dwindles, he hopes younger generations will continue telling these stories.

“I tell them, ‘When you go home, talk to your grandparents and parents. Find out whether they’ve gone through traumas, whether it’s in Asia or Africa.’

“My small story is an example that you can survive. Unfortunately, people are suffering all over the world. We are getting older, and fewer and fewer Holocaust survivors are here to tell these stories. It’s absolutely vital that the younger generation takes on what we’re doing.”

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